The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk
This book is very connected to one’s personal work around sexuality and relationships. Everyone has experienced some form of trauma just from being alive. The intensity and nature of the trauma can impinge on one’s ability to connect with others, to trust and to be engaged and open to give and receive love and care in relationships. In Body Keeps the Score, Trauma expert and researcher, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk leads us through his life journey in working with patients and how he started to realize and study the immense impact of past trauma on his patients who were suffering and desperate. His cutting edge approach at the time of using alternative therapies to heal (like yoga, meditation, love from a therapist, etc.) proved to be more successful than any drug that had been prescribed. His book also highlights the impact that healthy relationships can have on healing past trauma. I know this first hand from working with clients. When people are able to form a secure attachment bond with me (or anyone) in combination with safety and body based therapies – great healing happens. Read this book if you ever wonder what is behind your fear and insecurity around relationships and the role that your body plays in holding all the memories of the past.